It’s time to reclaim your power, stop settling and create the life you really want! Settling for less than what you really want is a disease in our society. It’s been pounded into us by media, schools and government.
Eckhart Tolle says, “unhappiness or negativity is a disease on our planet. What pollution is on the outer level is negativity on the inner…The affluent world is even more deeply identified with form, more lost in content, more trapped in ego.”
The way I take this Eckhart Tolle quote, the more affluent you are, the easier it is for you to fall into the trap of always needing more things to be happy. But things don’t buy happiness. It’s all meaningless if you aren’t experiencing the life you really want. Experiences are what count. So what has real meaning for you? What do you really want more of in your life?
Once you figure out what you really want, you can create a life filled with joy, not more overflowing closets.
I think the reason people settle is because we’ve been taught to push down our dreams, to not think about what it is we really want and just take what we can get. When you were a kid you had all kinds of dreams. You thought everything was available to you. Anything you wished for, anything you dreamed of having and anything you wanted to become, was potentially there for the taking.
By the time we become adults we’ve learned to be really good at shoving down our desires. We’re no longer thinking about what our dreams really are. Possibly we’ve settled in every single area of our lives.
I live in Cabo San Lucas and many of the people who live here are involved in the timeshare industry. When I lived here in the 90’s that was the work I did. And during that time I talked to thousands of vacationers, some of them very savvy world travelers. One of the questions I asked every clients was, “How do you like where you’re staying now?”
The reason for the question was two fold. Their answer told me what needed to be the same, and what needed to be different about the resort they were looking at for them to make a decision to make a change. Their answer served as a baseline for what they found acceptable and unacceptable.
What I was really looking for, and rarely got, was a glimpse into the experience they were having. Sadly, even on vacation, their brains were in surface level facts, not feelings and experiences. They were cut of from finding the joy and excitement available to them in the adventure of a vacation. And so it goes in life.
If you, as the vacationer, look a little deeper you may discover you’ve set the bar pretty low of what you consider to be good or fine. Pretty depressing if you only take 1 or 2 vacations a year, don’t you think? But what this really says about your life is even bigger.
You’re settling for less than what’s available to you and potentially a lot less than what you really want. There’s no room for settling when you’re on a mission to have an ageless lifestyle after 50. If you’ve been settling in the first half of your life, that all ends now. It’s time to go for everything you want, knowing there’s so much more available to you than you’ve asked for.
So how do you make a shift to stop settling and create an ageless lifestyle?
First set your baseline.
You have to know how you feel about your current situation before you can really look at what you want to improve, or what you want to be different. Just like with the vacation example, you have to know what you like about what you’ve got now. What I noticed with those vacationers, as well as my private mentoring clients over the last decade, was that it’s no different whether you’re talking about your vacations, your job or your relationship. You quickly realize you’ve been settling!
Men and women are both guilty of feeling like a response of, “It’s okay, it’s just fine”, is as good as it gets. And then they rationalize it with a plausible reason why. That’s how many people spend their lives, with everything just being good enough.
So back to my vacation example. When I would ask people, “How do you like where you’re staying now?”, the most frequent answer I would get would be, “Its okay, it works for us, it’s just fine.” There was no real happiness shown in their answer. No reference to the experience they were having.
Is it possible you’ve gotten so accustomed to settling, that when you think about it, it seems normal for okay to be a great answer? You may even find yourself thinking, “Okay is pretty good because things could be a whole lot worse.”
Isn’t the whole idea of having a happy life to have fun and experience joy? That’s certainly what having an ageless lifestyle is about!
But you don’t even think about what it means to be happy, experience joy or be ageless, because you’re busy just put one foot in front of the other day in and day out. If you don’t think about it too much it’s okay. You tell
yourself, “I can get through this. It’s Monday. Only four more days until it’s Friday and then I have another weekend.” And what do you do on the weekend? You do the same thing you did the weekend before and that’s okay too, but where’s the joy?
So it’s not surprising you don’t know where to begin to look when do take a minute to wonder, “What is my passion? What is my life purpose?”
You aren’t taught how to create a vision for your life.
If I ask someone if they have a vision for their life, they are lost. I get a blank stare. What does that even mean? Where do you start? How do you create that vision? Where does it come from?
You may have been to seminars where you’ve done an exercise creating your perfect day. You close your eyes and imagine what your perfect day would be.
Normally one of 3 things happens:
1. It’s a total fantasy.
2. It’s something so far off in the future you can’t even imagine when you’re going to get there.
3. It doesn’t look all that much different then your life now. It might just be a little bit better.
Most likely you’ll need help to figure out what you want your life to look like, to create a vision for your life. You’ll want to create a vision with a step-by-step plan you can walk into starting right now. You need tools though. You need someone who knows the ropes helping you through that process.
I’m here to help you do this. The first step is to grab the free report that will help you create your personal manifesto. That’s the foundational document for creating an ageless lifestyle. It’s a document that all your decisions will be measured against from now on so you have clarity, focus and ease of decision making.
You’ll have clarity and focus because once you create your personal manifesto you’ll know what is most important to you and what you stand for in your life. Then it’s much easier to create the vision for your life and the path you’re taking to get there. Now you have your new baseline for moving forward!
I’ve been helping people create a vision for their lives for more than 30 years. I was always a little odd when it came to doing what was expected. In fact, I didn’t take a traditional path in any area of my life. I always followed my intuition. I’ve been consciously creating my life since I was in high school.
It’s not difficult to create the life you really want when you have the tools to make it happen. That’s what I will provide for you, for free. I’m giving this special report away for free to give you the tool you need for creating this important foundational document in your journey to living an ageless lifestyle after 50. Your personal manifesto is a framework for you to create a vision that’s very personal, very deeply yours, by giving you those tools to make it happen. Let me give you this gift. You can grab it here.